“Siamo più grandi ora, siamo più intelligenti, abbiamo più esperienza, siamo in luoghi diversi della nostra vita, abbiamo figli ora, and we have to be very conscious of those things,” the 52-year old Sposami star tells PEOPLE in this week’s cover story.
The superstar couple, who are parents to five kids between them, also have the benefit of life lessons gleaned along the way. “It’s a beautiful outcome that this has happened in this way at this time in our lives where we can really appreciate and celebrate each other and respect each other,” Lopez dice. “We always did, but we have even more of an appreciation because we know that life can take you in different directions.”
No longer distracted by the pomp and media circus that surrounded their relationship before they split in 2004, Lopez dice, “I think we are strong enough now to know what’s real and what’s not, whereas when we were younger maybe some of those outside voices were a little bit tougher for us to reconcile and survive.”
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For one, Lopez gained invaluable perspective over the last two decades. Sustaining an A-list career as a multi-faceted artist — and becoming a mom to her now-13-year-old twins Max and Emme — naturally helped drown out unnecessary noise and let her focus on the life-enriching parts of her journey.
“We have been in the game in the public eye long enough to know who we are as people and what really matters and what doesn’t matter,” lei dice. “We have kids and we respect each other. … We really live our lives in a way we can be proud of and our kids can be proud of you. We’re just operating from a place of love and respect for everyone in our lives and that is very important to us. We know what the truth is [e] we hold it sacred.”
Affleck, 49, seems on the same page. “I feel like he’s at a place in his life where — just like I feel about myself — it’s been a journey of learning yourself and figuring yourself out, getting to a place where you feel really good on your own and who you are so you can be in a happy, healthy relationship,” lei dice.
“Ora,” Lopez adds, “it’s really up to the two of us what our life is going to be.”
Sposami is in theaters and on Peacock Feb. 11.
For the full, exclusive interview with Jennifer Lopez — and more extraordinary love stories — pick up a copy of LE PERSONE‘s new Love Issue, ora in edicola.